The Musing Mom: The Secret to True Love: The Fruit of the Spirit is Love

The fruit of the Spirit is love.

Galatians 5: 22

We all have a yearning for love. Sometimes we seek to share this love that we have bubbling up inside us, or we just want someone to actually, for real this time, love us. We wander through this world seeking love from a spouse, our children, friends, and people in general.

But what if we are going about things the wrong way? What if everything we think about love is a lie?

The Secret to True Love is a new series that delves into the truth about love when it is compared to what we see in the media and around us. Things are not always as they seem. However, when we apply the Truths of the Word of God to the situations that affect us daily, we would come to realize how much peace we would have in a world that actually attempts to robs us of that peace every day.

💓 Read other articles about True Love:
The Secret to True Love: Life Changing Love
The Secret to True Love: 2 Reasons You May Be Unhappy in Love
3 Steps to Long and Lasting Love: Step 1
3 Steps to Long and Lasting Love: Step 2

Perfect Love or Sex Appeal

When I was a teenager, I used to admire the shiny muscular contours on those black dudes who sang R and B songs! They had a swag that appealed to me as they crooned lyrics of undying love for this girl, or rescuing that girl from a broken relationship. They were perfect. Perfect curly hair, perfect durags, perfect bodies, perfect sound, perfect idea of loving. Yes! They were perfect but perfect at sex appeal.

The Bible says that foolishness is bound in the heart of a child and it takes the rod of correction to drive it out (Proverbs 22:15). The rod of correction that woke me up included a decade long marriage that ended in divorce and other love relationships that never filled that need for love the way I thought it should have.

Something just never sat right with my spirit.

Hard Journey to Truth

Being a Christian just seemed natural to me so it didn't take much convincing me to get baptized at the age of 14 years. My relationship with God was so-so until things changed between us during the depression struggles I experienced in my 20s. (Read my Confessions of a Depression Survivor here.) I started to see more of who God Almighty is and I really started to grow in love with my Saviour. Then, when my husband and I separated after our 12 years of being together, I got to understand more about love. Yes, in the pain of heartache, I learned more about true love.

Not the love in the music videos.

Not the love of 'happily ever after' aspirations.

Not the love that we want to make us feel sweet all day.

I learned the truth about Love.

When Love Walked Away

I remember when my husband left, I felt no pain. I was visited by my Father one night and He spoke words of comfort in my spirit. The language He used was not English but I understood that it was comfort. Two days later, my husband left us. I never felt sad or anything. I was fine until some months later when I had applied for a scholarship that it hit me. I was a single mom. Of course, I felt hurt in that moment but I’ll save this complete testimony for the next article in this series. After 2 years of separation, the divorce process commenced. In all honesty, it hurt. A lot!

It was in the time of separation and divorce from my children’s dad that I started to see love clearly. I could sense my Lord holding my hand and showing me the truth about love.

Bear in mind that all my views are based on the Word of God. The teachings in the Bible make even the most technical-looking aspects of life seem so simple if we would only take the time out to ask the Lord to reveal these things to us.

Over the next few days of this series, we will take a look at our Father’s idea about love as He is the Originator and Essence of Love. Let’s debunk the lies and see why so many persons including this Musing Mom, fall down the rabbit hole of incorrect loving. I’ll share my stories of living the lies about love and how the truth about love set me free and made me more confident in love.